Is your name Casper because you sure are ghosting me?

I'm sure many of you who online date, or just date in general, have experienced what is called "ghosting". In case you're not familiar with this term, let me break it down for you. You start talking to someone, there's mutual interest, you go on a date and then BAM...ghosted. They literally stop talking to you and sometimes even block you. As an adult, who is supposedly dating adults, this practice really baffles me. I don't understand why it's so difficult to simply call someone up (hell, id even settle for a text) and say "Hey Ginger, I enjoyed meeting you the other night but I just don't think this is going to work for me." To which I would respond "No worries, thanks for letting me know and I hope you find what you're looking for. Take care." Simple enough right? Apparently not because I get ghosted ALL THE FUCKING TIME. Let me tell you about my most recent douchebag experience!

I started talking to this younger dude on Match. Now if you remember, I told y'all that I signed up for Match because I figured if both parties were paying for a dating subscription they were likely to take it more serious right? Wrong. I've gone out with four different guys from this and all four of them have been damn idiots. So back to the most recent one, we start talking because he messages me first. He's 5 years younger than me but I didn't really care because we seemed to be on the same page, want the same things, have similar interests etc. So we end up talking for two weeks prior to meeting because our schedules just didn't work out but FINALLY we get to meet. We go to this cool little bar in this fun little town that I love and y'all we hung out on our date for SIX DAMN HOURS. SIX! We closed down two different bars, make out a little then say our goodbyes with a date set up for the following weekend. I leave thinking that it's literally one of the best dates I've been on in a long time and I'm legitimately excited to see him again. He texts me the next day, a good sign in my book, and the we continue talking through Tuesday night when all of a sudden, he just drops off. He had mentioned before that he was bad about texting, and I had experienced this with him so I just dismissed it and didn't think anything of it. I text him again one more time Wednesday to see if everything is cool and he doesn't answer me.

Fast forward to Monday, I was drinking a little wine and made a post on my Twitter account about how much I wanted to text him again to find out why he was ghosting me because I had replayed that amazing date in my head MANY times and I couldn't think of anything I did to put him off. Some of my Twitter friends talked me down and convinced me not to, so I didn't. So the next day, I'm looking at my account and you can see who's viewed you, and low and behold this mother effer was checking me out! I had updated a pretty great new pic so I'm sure that's what caught his attention but what caught MY attention was that his age was 2 years older than what he'd claimed to be when we went out. I couldn't help myself, I had to text him again to find out wtf was going on and why he disappeared. He writes me back and you'll never believe what he told me.... HE'S MARRIED!!!! What?!! His profile says "Never Married". Apparently they are currently separated and going through a divorce. So I call him out about the age thing and he's like "ohhh, yeah so those are the two things I lied to you about." Awesome. He did apologize but honestly I'm not entirely sure I can even believe anything he told me. You better believe that I got back on Match and reported his lying ass though! I hope they suspend his account or something. I honestly don't know what happens when you report someone...maybe they have a designated ass kicker? If not, they should totes look into making this a real thing. Anyways, another douche bites the dust and I have a promising date tomorrow so hopefully I'll having something great to report about.

Are douchebags becoming a nationwide pandemic?

Hey y'all! In addition to my blog I've recently begun posting on Twitter about my daily message mishaps on all the "fabulous" dating apps/sites and what I've discovered is that dudes nationwide are generally big ole asshats. I've met two fellow Twitterers(is that right?) and their posts confirm that this generation of daters is seriously lazy. Nowadays guys don't even expect to pick up a bar tab to get laid, all they have to do is reach out on Tinder and ask "do you wanna get fucked hard?". The sad thing about this is, there HAS to be females out there that say "well, as a matter of fact, yes I do." Girls, ladies, women...if y'all are the ones saying yes to this, you are part of the reason that the dating community is in such dire straits. Dudes, quit being lazy and actually take a girl out, pay for her drinks/dinner or whatever and if the sparks are flying then by all means, get busy. Ladies...EXPECT the men to do this for you. You can have high expectations for yourself without expecting them to be perfect. You should have expectations for the guy you date because what if you end up with this person for life? Don't you wanna be happy for the long haul? I just don't get it and it's beyond frustrating that we (guys and girls) think this "hookup culture" is acceptable. It's not and you should want more for yourself and every other single person out there.

What's your age again?

Hi y'all! I'm back already with another lovely dating story for today! Tonight I went out with a dude that I've been talking to for a few weeks now and I was legit looking forward to this date. I had it all played out in my head that this was gonna be my last first date (for awhile anyways, let's be realistic lol) and that we were going to enjoy all these cool things that he had alluded to in our messages etc... This is not going to be the case y'all. He shows up, looking nice but also a good 5 years older than he said he was. Really? Did he honestly think I wasn't going to notice this?? I'm all about dating older guys, but he's closer to 50 than I am to 40. In addition to him not being the age he claimed to be, he was also not the height he claimed to be. I think i've covered this in a previous post and honestly, I'll probably say something about it again in a future post since it seems to be a common thread in online dating. My profile is 100% true, up to date, and real. I don't think it's too much to ask that these guys I'm trying to date do the same thing. Ya feel me? I don't have any other dates lined up for the weekend but you never know what might happen! Maybe I'll do some throwback posts about guys I dated when I first started online dating. Have a fun weekend, y'all!

Tweet Tweet!

I'm now officially on Twitter! I'll be posting longer dating stories here and possibly little bits of them on there or all the dumb one-liners I get online. Follow me @sotiredofdating 

Wait...you want me to pay after you just unloaded all your custody issues on me?

Hey y'all it's been a minute since I've posted. Mostly because life got in the way but also because I was lazy and didn't have it in me to come up with witty posts lol. At least I'm honest right? So today's dating entry is about a fella I met on Match. I joined up not too long ago thinking that if the guys were also paying for it they'd take it more seriously right? So far this is my 3rd person to go on a date with from this site and so far, I'm still single. I'll fill you in on the other dudes later in another post. For the sake of anonymity I'm going to name this bloke "Shawn". So, Shawn and I have been talking for probably just under 2 weeks. He messaged me first on Match and I was pretty interested based on what he had in his profile. I wasn't totally attracted to him but when you get to be my age you kinda don't care as much about that stuff as you did in your 20's. We moved from Match to texting and y'all, this fool texts me ALL THE TIME so you would think he was interested right? He proceeds to ask me out for a lunch date which is not normal but it's summer, so why not? We meet for lunch and thank goodness he looks like himself minus this big ass bump on his eye that I CANNOT stop looking at lol. Anyways, lunch is going ok...he's drinking a lot of beer (I only had 2), he's talking nonstop mostly about him and then he gets to the part where he wants to share with me about his divorce and custody issues. Y'all, I don't mind dating a dude who's been divorced and I don't mind dating a dude who has offspring BUT I do not care to hear about all that shit on a first date. To top it all off, this mother effer has me pay for my own meal. I can afford my own food, that's not the point. If you can't afford to date, then you shouldn't be dating. I get SO tired of these guys asking me out and then not wanting to pay. It just sends a message that you're either 1) not interested in me or 2) you can't afford to buy me a couple beers and sandwich...either way, I'm out. There will not be a 2nd date with Shawn. The good news is, I have another date tonight with a different guy and maybe I'll be posting something good about him later? I really need to post about all the other dumb dates I've been on since my last post in March. I'm just tired y'all. Dating in the 21st century blows. See ya next post!

Was that supposed to be a compliment?

Good morning!! I'm sure if you're on online dating like I am, you get a sundry of "compliments" on a regular basis. I just wanted to share a quick post about a few that I've gotten lately that I thought were really funny, and/or annoying!

• Guy: You look like the Queen

          Me: No...she's 90. I don't look like her at all. (I'm in my mid 30's for the record)
         
          Guy: Well, you are prettier

• Guy: You're really beautiful (his profile says he wants a relationship btw)

          Me: Awww thank you so much! How are you today?

          Guy: Wanna F**k?

          Me:

• Guy:  Your eyes shine brighter than the Sun on Neptune. I could look into them and get lost for years.

         Me (to myself): I'm clearly not answering this crazy. I'll probably end up tied up in his shed. 

• Guy: hi your really pretty and my name is greg* and i think we have alot in common and do you like to fish drink beer eat tacos?

         Me (also to myself): Not answering this because you clearly don't believe in punctuation "greg".  For the record, I do like to fish, drink beer and eat tacos lol

There are so many more that I could type but I'm out of time.  I'll do a Part II at a later date! Dating is super fun!!

Hookup Culture?

Hey everyone, I took a break from dating on the swiping apps for a bit and thought I'd try out one with more "substance". Believe it or not, it wasn't much better than the apps. I will say that the quality of guys I was matched with was better, however, they match you with tons of people who aren't paying subscribers and therefore, cannot reply to your messages you send them. After my 3 month subscription ended I thought I'd give the others another shot only to be sorely disappointed yet again. Look, I'm all about sex. I love sex. I think lots of sex is great, HOWEVER, I do not think lots of sex with random strangers you've been talking to on an app for a whole 5 minutes is good. Why is ok for a guy to send me a message and ask if he can, and I quote, "come over and give me his fat cock tonight" ok? All I did was swipe right, say hello, and that's the immediate response I get. All you stupid girls who say "oh yes, that sounds fantastic" to these douchey guys are the reason nice girls like me can't find a decent one. They all think that everyone is dtf 24/7, with any random Joe that says he wants to. Stop it. Seriously, you're not only doing a disservice to yourself but you're ruining it for the rest of us. And guys, you're not getting off the hook. Just because one bimbo said yes that one fateful night does not give you the right to hit every chick up on that app for a pic of their tits and blowie. Get over yourself, it's probably not as "fat" as you think it is anyways. We have to stop this hookup culture now or we are all going to be STD riddled, single senior citizens chilling in a nursing home later on in life. Go on real dates where you get to know someone...then go on another date and another date and ANOTHER FREAKING DATE with that person until you've developed a connection. Then, if you decide you want to have sex...have sex. Have lots of sex, but just have sex with that one person and be an ADULT in a COMMITTED relationship. Rant over. Have a great weekend and I'll post some actual date stories later!